The Advocate

Hi, I’m an INFJ, one of the rarest MBTI types, or so they say. But trust me, it's not good. So, here’s a little rundown of the struggles I go through as an INFJ. 

Introvert.

Yeah, I like spending time alone and getting lost in my own thoughts. But don’t get me wrong, I still need social interaction, I’m just super picky about who I hang out with. So, please be my friends, real friends, whenever I try to make an interaction😔.

Idealist.

I’ve got this clear vision of a better world, even if sometimes it’s hard to explain exactly what that looks like. They say INFJs won’t stop fighting until their vision becomes reality. But this idealism often leaves me disappointed and hurt because, well, the world doesn’t always match up with my expectations. 

Empathist.

INFJs have this crazy ability to feel what other people are going through, especially their emotional pain, like it’s happening to us. I end up helping others even when my own stuff is falling apart because I feel too bad to say no—kinda funny, lol. And yeah, this empathy can be super draining. I’m often emotionally exhausted from soaking up everyone else’s feelings. It’s tiring, bro. 

Perfectionist.

I always try to do everything perfectly, everything should be perfect as I imagined. But this perfectionism  stresses me out big time. Sometimes, I can’t hit the standards I set for myself and I just wanna give up or I wait for the “perfect” timing or conditions to reach that. But like I said before, the world never really lines up with my expectations. And yeah, it’s exhausting. 

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So yeah, that’s some of the struggles I deal with as an INFJ. Just imagine how tiring it is—three out of the four points, I mention being tired, lol. To my friends, thanks for sticking around and please don’t get tired of me 😔. When I drop a hint, just know something’s up. You can either ask me about it or just go with the flow as I see it. But yeah, please ask hehe. 

To wrap things up, I found these two quotes from big names in psychology that I think are pretty cool: 

"INFJs are the most complex and fascinating people you'll ever meet. But be warned, they're also the most difficult to understand." - Carl Jung

"INFJs are the ones who see the world for what it could be, not just for what it is. They're the dreamers, the visionaries, and the ones who make the world a better place." - Isabel Briggs Myers

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*Update (22 June 2024): my trait is changing to Thinking! I got around 63%. I'm INTJ now! But, because this is MBTI, of course it's not permanent. It will change as my journey continues. 😎